{"id":3186,"date":"2022-05-25T01:49:34","date_gmt":"2022-05-25T01:49:34","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/iconrefined.com\/?p=3186"},"modified":"2024-04-08T21:16:22","modified_gmt":"2024-04-08T21:16:22","slug":"bti-377-having-difficult-conversations-with-adrian-koehler","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/iconrefined.com\/bti-377-having-difficult-conversations-with-adrian-koehler\/","title":{"rendered":"BTI #377: Having Difficult Conversations with Adrian Koehler"},"content":{"rendered":"\n<!-- iframe plugin v.5.1 wordpress.org\/plugins\/iframe\/ -->\n<iframe loading=\"lazy\" style=\"border:none\" src=\"\/\/html5-player.libsyn.com\/embed\/episode\/id\/23224403\/height\/100\/width\/\/thumbnail\/no\/render-playlist\/no\/theme\/custom\/tdest_id\/4427553\/custom-color\/87A93A\" height=\"100\" width=\"100%\" scrolling=\"no\" 0=\"allowfullscreen\" 1=\"webkitallowfullscreen\" 2=\"mozallowfullscreen\" 3=\"oallowfullscreen\" 4=\"msallowfullscreen\" class=\"iframe-class\" frameborder=\"0\"><\/iframe>\n\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">I&#8217;m not the best when it comes to having difficult conversations.I&#8217;m the type of person who shuts the door to my office and becomes disgruntled. I think one of my old coworkers said that I had become difficult to work with and communicate with. They&#8217;re probably right so we&#8217;re going to dive into that today.<\/span><\/p>\n<p>&nbsp;<\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">We are going to talk about how to engage in difficult conversations. My guest today is Adrian Koehler. He is a leadership engagement expert and executive coach.<\/span><\/p>\n<\/p>\n<p><strong><em>&#8220;The meaning in any communication is in the receiver.&nbsp;<\/em><\/strong><\/p>\n<p><strong><em>They make up what you mean.<\/em><\/strong><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">&#8220;<\/span><\/p>\n<p><\/p>\n<p><strong>IN THIS EPISODE<\/strong><\/p>\n<ul>\n<li style=\"font-weight: 400;\" aria-level=\"1\"><span style= \"font-weight: 400;\">Human engineering and how it affects our daily lives.<\/span><\/li>\n<li style=\"font-weight: 400;\" aria-level=\"1\"><span style= \"font-weight: 400;\">The paradoxes of leadership.<\/span><\/li>\n<li style=\"font-weight: 400;\" aria-level=\"1\"><span style= \"font-weight: 400;\">How to effectively lead others with compassion and accurate communication.<\/span><\/li>\n<li style=\"font-weight: 400;\" aria-level=\"1\"><span style= \"font-weight: 400;\">Caring enough to have important conversations often.<\/span><\/li>\n<li style=\"font-weight: 400;\" aria-level=\"1\"><span style= \"font-weight: 400;\">Intentional communication in relationships.<\/span><\/li>\n<li style=\"font-weight: 400;\" aria-level=\"1\"><span style= \"font-weight: 400;\">Facing difficult situations side by side instead of butting heads.<\/span><\/li>\n<li style=\"font-weight: 400;\" aria-level=\"1\"><span style= \"font-weight: 400;\">Our psychological assessments.<\/span><\/li>\n<li style=\"font-weight: 400;\" aria-level=\"1\"><span style= \"font-weight: 400;\">Where confidence really comes from.<\/span><\/li>\n<li style=\"font-weight: 400;\" aria-level=\"1\"><span style= \"font-weight: 400;\">Ways to prevent falling into your old patterns.<\/span><\/li>\n<li style=\"font-weight: 400;\" aria-level=\"1\"><span style= \"font-weight: 400;\">Pillars that Adrian stands by.<\/span><\/li>\n<li style=\"font-weight: 400;\" aria-level=\"1\"><span style= \"font-weight: 400;\">Why what you think and how you show up in the world is inseparable.<\/span><\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<p><strong>Connect with James&nbsp;<\/strong><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Website:<\/span> <a href= \"https:\/\/jamespatrick.com\/\"><span style= \"font-weight: 400;\">jamespatrick.com<\/span><\/a><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Instagram:<\/span> <a href= \"https:\/\/www.instagram.com\/jpatrickphoto\/\"><span style= \"font-weight: 400;\">@jpatrickphoto<\/span><\/a><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Text me marketing questions @: 480-605-3254&nbsp;<\/span><\/p>\n<p>&nbsp;<\/p>\n<p><strong>Connect with Adrian<\/strong><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">LinkedIn:<\/span> <a href= \"https:\/\/www.linkedin.com\/in\/adriankoehler\"><span style= \"font-weight: 400;\">Adrian Koehler<\/span><\/a><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Instagram:<\/span> <a href= \"https:\/\/instagram.com\/adrian.k?igshid=YmMyMTA2M2Y=\"><span style= \"font-weight: 400;\">@adrian.k<\/span><\/a><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Interested in getting coaching or team trainings?<\/span> <a href= \"https:\/\/takenewground.com\/\"><span style= \"font-weight: 400;\">https:\/\/takenewground.com<\/span><\/a> <span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">or<\/span> <a href= \"https:\/\/adriankoehler.com\/\"><span style= \"font-weight: 400;\">https:\/\/adriankoehler.com<\/span><\/a><\/p>\n<p>&nbsp;<\/p>\n<p><strong>Want a leadership deep dive? Join us at The Revenant Process where only 30 people can join us in Nashville:<\/strong> <a href= \"https:\/\/wearerevenant.com\/\"><strong>https:\/\/wearerevenant.com\/<\/strong><\/a><\/p>\n<\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Share this podcast with a friend and remember to leave a 5-star review!&nbsp;<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">For more, visit<\/span> <a href= \"https:\/\/www.jamespatrick.com\/\"><span style= \"font-weight: 400;\">jamespatrick.com<\/span><\/a><\/p>\n<p><a href=\"https:\/\/directory.libsyn.com\/episode\/index\/id\/23224403\/tdest_id\/4427553\">Check out this episode!<\/a><\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>I&#8217;m not the best when it comes to having difficult conversations.I&#8217;m the type of person who shuts the door to my office and becomes disgruntled. I think one of my old coworkers said that I had become difficult to work with and communicate with. 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